Few years back my question was –How- anyone can be- without helping others. After all, there were many who helped me- out of the way- to come up in life. But over a period- life has taught many things about helping others. Lose a friend or lose money is one famous proverb. Mother doe does not advocate philanthropy, benevolence, helping etc., in the name of goodness, conscience, helping humanity etc., So the question zeros on to whether we can help or not.
The answers is: We can help but, there is a check list.
• If you bring any of Mother’s aspect into it, it won’t create any problem in future. For example, if I help somebody who has helped me previously unknowing, I am bringing an aspect of “gratitude” into it.
• Help leads to trouble. What we give may be money or sympathy. The logic of life is that whatever you receive must be returned in greater measure. That is why it always ends up with- we being in sympathetic position after a help or in a money problem.
• We have to think that it is grace that someone solicits our help. We have to give as Mother gave it to us. Human help destroys the receiver, turns him against the giver. The rule is never to help anyone if you do not want to be hit, hurt, opposed and betrayed.
• What you get depends on how you give. Compassionate help to weakness is considered by it as indulgent patronage. Therefore, it resents. To be able to help to change their ignorance into knowledge is Mother’s help. The un-egoistic help is the soul exchanging force with soul, true “Lila” in life. We can see lepers and some handicapped praising their draw backs for fetching the food. He who helps as Mother helps serves the other.
• Any help rendered to a thief will ultimately end in his stealing more. Help to a trait will finally reinforce the trait, whatever the mode of help is. Any force entering a system will strengthen its prime mover.
• Distinguish between the ideal and the institution. Pure affection can be selfish. Only strength is in the substance. YOU are NOT attractive, your accompaniments are. Rationality is unborn. Don’t hesitate to enjoy your rights. Say “NO” in right time. I am seeing many of the head of the voluntary organization who came in M-80 few years back going in Benz whereas the inmates remain in same conditions.
• Finally if we go through the entire speech by Mother – setting aside some of our pre-programmed ideas on helping and philanthropy for few minutes- we can very well understand the truth behind it.
Some of the question we can ask ourselves before helping others are:
- Is there any selfish, egoistic attitudes, intentions in it.
- Is it because of courtesy, to maintain relationship or social norms. [remember the saying lose money or friendship]
- Is the other person exploiting our helping tendency? [as I am near registration office most people used to call me and asks to collect the documents though it is only an hour of work for them].
- Is it is because of not able to tell no in right time?
- Is it towards any of your ideals, goals or principles?
- Does it exhibit any of higher values.
- Does it makes higher aspect act on lower aspect?
- Is it for material or spiritual progress of any kind to you or to others?
