A question by a deveotee on domestic harmony – that leads to exploitation.
As said in my previous mail, you are taking submission as harmony. Karmayogi says that, attitude to please anyone is the highest form of ego, a stubborn ignorance which is misplaced Ananda. As Mother says, it is akin to Ananda of the deer, waiting to be attack by the tiger. Real harmony happens as a process. Life is continuously exchanging forces that carries capacities. For example, exchange of weakness carries the capacity of the strength. That is way we gain knowledge – called as maturity. So, in life the solution is obeying are disobeying should be based on our ideals, our goals, our ambitions, our values, etc. For example, if somebody asks you to steal something will you do that in the name of harmony with that person? We can see that we have preferences and we do based on that. We do anything, only up to the limits of our belief structure. So allowing for exploitation is willing acceptance is the truth whether you accept it or not. Extending its boundaries, taking conscious decision that, I won’t budge to anyone’s pressure, except for my wellbeing, my family wellbeing, my prosperity, or to evolve in consciousness etc., are the only way we can escape the exploitation by others. Appa often says that life responds only to strength which is generally gross value- means a social value.
If you think harmony as a spiritual value or doing for Mother’s sake, then it is different. You have to accept it as you are Inviting this, or your nature is inviting this and trying to develop strength needed for that. Inner harmony maturing into oneness with the other person reflecting in life as harmony is the spiral method here. But to do that we need enormous faith on Mother.
Disharmony in Being or in Life is because our parts of the Being are in loggerheads, particularly it is mental versus vital all the time. So, see what mental says and follow or see what Spirit says or Mother says and follow that. Harmony depends on our vital psychological organization. You have to do this voluntarily, practice and evolve.
Mother will help for that. For example, one of the devotees got wedded to a staunch brahmin family. On one occasion she was forced to wear “madisaar” and do rituals the next day. She wrote to Appa. Appa replied to do as her mother-in-law says. The whole night she was balancing her psychological agitation on to do or not to do. Then she decided to do for harmony and happiness of her in laws family and her for husband. The next day morning, mother in law said, “ be yourself you can come and do as you wish in your own dress. we will take care of the rituals”. So if you are already doing it for harmony or really doing it for harmony as a value life – Mother will help. If you do it out of fear of losing someone or for appreciation or to prove your goodness, then you have to face only bitter consequences. Because it is the rule of life, which gives life response – only to evolve. It is nature’s way of pounding on the head with stark realities to learn the lesson one utterly ignores always.
