Our opinions and assumptions mostly are time bound and are corrected by knowledge gained through experience. However, when the opinions are based on the superiority complex, arrogance, vanity, conceit, egoistic tendencies such as “I know more attitude” we attempt to have others acknowledge our “specialness” in the process bringing the trouble for ourselves.
Opinions and assumptions are based on our understanding of happenings with prejudice, connecting it with the past experiences and expecting the same in future. In the process we do not think of the circumstances, parameters, persons existed at “that” time is different from now. This makes us to ignore other possibilities with the experience we gained so far and its alternative solutions. After all, intelligence is selecting the best from available alternatives.
With all the intelligence given by Sri Karmayogi to us, we should have gained the knowledge that MOTHER is the best alternative. In-fact only alternative.
When I analysed my opinions and assumptions based many HR training questions, I found that mostly it came under few broad heads. When I asked the questions, myself {given in italics} it showed me how ugly I am and definitely pointed out where I have to change. I am giving the some of the generalized questions, which can be elaborate asked themselves based on personal character and traits.
“I deserve much more. But I don’t have opportunities”.
Can you specify what exactly you have? Have you first utilized all the opportunities that came to you without any reservations and demands based on your opinions and wants? Did you followed maximum utilization/exhausting of all available resources before calling Mother.
“My family doesn’t cooperate with me.
What exactly co-operation means? Can you pinpoint? Is it dancing to your tunes, whims, and fancies? is there any truth in their view?
“Nobody likes me”
Why exactly they do not like you. What it in you brings that?
“It is a bad world: I have done this…., that….no gratitude…”
Do you think anybody can have a list to pay back the dues they owe? What you expect is exchange of some medium like exchange of money or services. Then make a deal or bargain of it instead of thinking it as sacrifice or service.
“I am older. Long-time devotee. Experienced. etc.. than others. So I know more”.
Are you trying to prove that your views opinions and assumptions are correct and final and you make no mistake? This makes us to ignore the wrongs and where we fault. We have to know that others equally believe that they are right.
“It is not fair. It is wrong… I can’t bear this…”
What is wrong and what is right can you specify? It is actually the other person did not prefer what you preferred. It is actually it should be favourable to you no matter what it is to others.
The list is endless if we prepare a questionnaire based on our attitudes.
Spirituality is awareness. Awareness about who we are. What are our attitudes, behaviour, traits etc., What choices we made in all past situations influenced by our opinions and assumptions and what results it gave? We have to accept the truth that, we are now- in a place where we actually deserve to be, because of the choices we made. We have arrived where we are today because of our choices. If we are unhappy about our present circumstances that simply means we have to change the way, we preferred to act.
We have to analyse ourselves with brutal honesty. Then only we can find where we are and where to change or where to shift. Every moment we have a choice. Doing it in our way or doing it in MOTHER’s way. That frees us from our own opinions and assumptions.
From my experiences, I have avoided my opinions and assumptions influencing me by practicing a simple logic. What others do is based on their own understanding, assumptions, reality, dreams, their own wants and dislikes. If you think in their point of view, it will be always correct in given circumstances. Similarly, all my opinions formed because of my past experiences or from others experiences also is not true unless every aspect, circumstances and parameters are same as previous, still you can’t guarantee that. When you are immune to the opinions and assumptions of others as well as ours, we won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
So best is living moment-to-moment trying to ask questions like: what MOTHER has said for this, or Sri Karmayogi has said about this and trying to that. It is simply to do your best that exceeds your yesterday’s best or previous best without self-judgment, self-praise, or self-regret.
