When we analyse the situation where we have complaints and criticism whether expressed or nurturing grudge without expressing – most of the time it will be like, the other person has behaved or has done something – which does not suit our way of doing or our way of behaviour. That makes us tense and the energy sent will be based on which part is tense and that part not being able to stand the stress of the situation. We can understand that by the response that person gives back.

Sri Karmayogi says, every complaint is a disapproval of what we are inwardly. Complaint is subconscious awareness of one’s own defect.

For example-(not necessarily it should show in the presence of the person who complained or criticized-even may be at his back) if he resists physically it is physical energy transferred. If it is emotional outburst the vital energy is transferred. If he behaves in clever and crooked way, it is the energy of our mental misunderstanding.

Spiritual energy cannot be released in complaining. It can be released in only in not complaining or criticizing as it brings one of the Mother’s values “other man point of view”. Not to complain is to recognize the other’s physical, vital and mental parts and the Divine’s work in him for evolution. This awareness only passes the spiritual energy not only to the person but also to the physical environment that brings out energy in both for graded structuring of consciousness of all parts of human. That comes only when the physical, vital and mental are denied of their normal scope of thought, comfort, and preference

Then what to do?
Mother says do not complain-unless you can change the person.

That brings us to the term advice. What are the situations where we can advise a person that can change him?

APPA says, if the advice is first is complaint or criticism and the second is correction, men stop with the first.

We should not give advice unless it is asked desperately to us. Because most of the time advice are asked to find for collecting the supporting argument for an “already taken decision”.

We should not give when we ourselves don’t practice that.

There are obvious instances in which giving advice and even correction is part of one’s responsibility, especially in work or child-rearing. However, even in these instances, it is the problems we have that come to us in others, so the key is to realize why we are placed in a position to give advice of this type? When that inner correspondence is discovered, we gain a great mastery over the outer situation and the other person’s problem also subsides.

Underlying all these issues, the central issue is that people like to advise and correct other people because it gives a sense of superiority and self-importance to the ego, which is extremely difficult to overcome. In the measure one can do it agelessly and only when ardently sought by the other person, it can be done without negative repercussions. But that does not mean the other person will follow the advice! The rule is we should never expect our advice to be followed. We should only strive harder to follow all the advice we have received from Sri Karmayogi – an area in which everyone fails miserably.